Moving on after a break up.

Breaking up is hard to do, especially after you’ve been in a bad relationship. At first, you might be thrilled to finally be free from the drama, but after a while the loneliness can set in and you might be tempted to jump back into an awful situation. Or, after a bad relationship, you may be afraid to date again because you’re worried whether or not you can trust again. Maybe you’re scared of dating the same type of person as your past relationship? Moving on after a bad relationship is possible if you learn from the past relationship to ensure you don’t end up in the same situation again.

Usually after you end a relationship you kind of go through stages. First, you’re either happy it has ended or extremely depressed. Often, you’ll want to rid your life of the memories. Some to choose to burn photos, change their look, or toss out the other’s belongings. There are a lot of ways people deal with ending a relationship, although I don’t recommend violence or destruction.

After you’ve passed through this stage, you can become sad or lonely. If that happens, it’s common to start remembering all of the good times in the relationship as the bad fade away. You can be tempted to jump back into the relationship because you miss what had been normal for so long. You don’t want to make any rash judgments in order to move on after ending a bad relationship because you’ll likely end up regretting it down the road.

If you’re tempted to rekindle the old flame, first sit down and do some thinking. You can’t forget about the bad moments in the relationship. Write down all the good and bad times to see if the good outweighed the bad. Also, make a list of what you want out of life, your relationship and the type of person you want to be with. If you ex doesn’t fit into what you want out of life, reconsider getting back together.

Most importantly of all, you need time to allow yourself to heal. Avoid talking to your ex to prevent any confusing emotions coming into the mix. Give yourself the time you need to think clearly before making any decisions, even when wanting to start a new relationship.

You don’t want to jump into a new relationship too soon or you may end up with the same type of person as your ex. This is where your list comes in handy. With your list you’ll know what type of person will make you happy and fit in with what you want out of life. If the person doesn’t fit into the life you have pictured for yourself, don’t get in a relationship with them

No matter how badly you may hate being single and want to be in a relationship, the worse thing you can do for yourself is jump into a relationship too soon. In order to move on after a bad relationship, you need to give yourself time to gather your thoughts and discover yourself. If you choose to go back to your ex afterwards or move onto someone new, that’s your choice. Just make sure you do it under your own terms and when you’re level headed. Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgment.