When he leaves you.

It was your last big fight. And, man, it was a humdinger. You can remember every bloody, little detail. You may have even known it was coming. Yet, that doesn't make it any easier. Or maybe, he calmly sat you down and told you that he wanted to see other people. Even worse, he had already fallen for someone else. There is no scenario that makes breaking up easy to do.

Why are you feeling so bad?

Because it hurts! I miss him, you say. There is no denying it can be one of the most painful experiences in your life. However, there are other things at work. Besides feeling deeply hurt, it is also very common to feel angry. Any sort of rejection can make us feel worthless. After all, nobody likes to think that they weren't enough for another person. What am I? Chopped liver? What's so special about this other person? Why couldn't I make you happy? The questions are endless and most of them never get a proper answer. So as you sit mulling over by your miserable self, anger and pain go hand-in-hand. In fact, sometimes you may begin to feel like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. One minute sobbing as you curl up in the fetal position and the next moment ready to commit a crime of passion. All of this intense emotion can leave you feeling exhausted and depressed.

Breakups are by no means easy, and often there is no way to avoid them. However, not every relationship that you have in life was meant to last forever.

Things to remember...

• Grief Is normal. So allow yourself to cry, cuss, even wallow on the ground until you get all those emotions out of your system.

• A breakup is a little bit like a death in the family. Understand the grief process. First there will be denial, then there will be anger and then comes bargaining. Next there will be depression. Finally, there will be acceptance. Don't be ashamed if you find yourself begging for him to come back in the middle of the night. This too shall pass. Eventually, you will get to the other side and be able to move on.

• Don't withdraw from those who care about you. No matter how much you'd like to roll up in a little ball and sleep indefinitely, you will need your friends and family.

• Find things to do and people to do things with as often as possible.

• Don't run out and start a new relationship right away. If you try to cover up your hurt with a new person, it is less likely to succeed.

• Get rid of anything lying around that apartment that reminds you of him.

One day, you will look back on this from a slightly different perspective, but until that happens just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Time is on your side!