Is it okay to be jealous?

As women, we tend to be jealous by nature. We like what’s ours, we want what we want and we want to be the apple of our man’s eye every minute of every day. When we feel one of these things is being threatened, we react with jealousy and the claws come out. Sometimes, we are just being possessive, other times we are being mean or insecure, and honestly, sometimes we are just playing games. It’s not a bad thing to be jealous, but being overly jealous or reacting with jealousy in certain instances can cause serious problems in relationships. So, when is it okay to be jealous and not just act as another super sensitive female?

Insecurity is a huge factor that makes us to react with jealousy, whether we want to admit it or not. If your man is talking to a girl you think looks better than you, you need to step back and take a chill pill. You can’t stop him from talking to every woman that may look better than you. By reacting with jealousy, you’re just going to irritate him and push him away. If you keep it up, it may led to him dumping your or cheating on you because jealousy like this is just unattractive. So, bit your tongue and suck it up.

Hey, let’s be honest-- we like to play games. But, have you ever heard the saying, “play with fire and you’ll get burnt?” Well, it’s true. If you’re only reacting with jealousy or pretending to be jealous just to play games, you need to quit it before it blows up in your face.

This is equally as true if you aren’t being fair with your jealousy. If you’re doing the exact same things your boyfriend is doing, you have no right to be jealous. For example, you still have a few ex’s listed in your phone, who you text from time to time or you hang out with a guy friend occasionally, you can’t get mad or jealous if he’s doing the same thing. The playing field has to be equal if you’re going to be reacting with jealousy.

Like I said before, girls are terrible with insecurities-- whether it be about your looks, your car or past experiences. So, an ex cheated on you in the past and now any guy you’re with is instantly labeled as a potential cheater. As a result, you fly off the handle every time he looks at another girl or forgets to call you back one night. That’s your problem, not his. If you act with jealousy over these situations, you’re the one in the wrong. You can’t punish him because you have some issues from your past. You need to deal with those issues within yourself and not take them out on your man.

Some girls are just the jealous type and some aren’t. A little bit of jealousy is good in a relationship, but if it’s ruling your life, you need to take it down a notch before you destroy a good thing. It is okay to be jealous under the right circumstances, but you can’t be using it to play games or try to control the relationship because it will eventually backfire.