Do you fight fair?

Loving someone isn't always as easy as it sounds! In fact, there are times when love simply isn’t enough. That means that even when you really care about someone, the fighting that takes place may not be fair. So if you must fight, how can you do it in a way that is constructive? Why waste a good fight without learning something from it?

Here are some things to remember when you and your guy are having a disagreement.

Anger is just another emotion. In and of itself, it isn't right or wrong. So get in touch with your own feelings first and try to understand what caused the anger in the first place.

Learning to compromise is an essential skill for fair fighting. If you can take a breath and calm down, you may come to the conclusion that neither one of you actually needs to win the fight.

Take a deep breath before you proceed. It might be a good thing to go for a walk or even hop on your bicycle and take a spin around the block before engaging in a discussion. Once your anger has subsided a little, then it will be easier to focus on negotiating.

If you're too tired or your partners too tired, don't insist on having a fight at that time. Sometimes if you sleep on it, the next day the problem doesn't even seem so big.

Try to stick to the subject. Nobody likes to hear things dredged up from the past. That is so counterproductive.

Don't resort to name calling. You know what I'm talking about! Calling your partner a nerd or an ass really doesn't help the situation.

See if you can find something to laugh about. Humor is a terribly underrated quality.

Fighting fair isn't always something that we know how to do without some practice. So, set some ground rules long before that bloody battle begins. If you do, you will stand a much better chance of coming out on the other side with a happy solution.