Is it bad to snoop?

A little snooping in a relationship never hurt anyone, right? Not so fast.

As innocent as your intentions may be, if you get caught snooping through your boyfriend’s phone, reading his instant messages or checking his Facebook account, he may consider that to be a serious invasion of his privacy. It may even be a deal breaker to some guys. Plus, what if you find something out you wish you hadn’t? Do you really want to know all of your boyfriend’s dirty little secrets? Would you want him knowing all of yours?

It’s really tempting to take a quick glance through your boyfriend’s phone or check his email account, but should you really be doing it? How would you feel if the tables were turned? Maybe you’re just curious? Maybe you want to know whether or not he has really stopped talking to his whore ex-girlfriend? What about that hot new co-worker? Maybe you’re just trying to control him? No matter your reason for wanting to snoop, innocent intentions or not, snooping won’t fix anything. In fact, it will just make things worse should you get caught.

Lets just say you snoop and find nothing. Good, right? Well, what happens if he finds out? He’s going to feel as though you betrayed him because you didn’t trust him, which led you to invading his privacy. What if you do find something, like he is cheating? Then, you are just digging your own grave because you’re guilty of snooping.

Even if you snoop because you fear there maybe trouble in your relationship, the answers you find by snooping won’t fix anything. If you’re tempted to snoop out of curiosity or fear your relationship is in trouble, your best bet is to talk with your boyfriend. If talking with your boyfriend doesn’t ease your fears or curiosity, you need to work on your communication in your relationship first.

If you aren’t able to resolve your issues by communicating, than you have bigger issues at hand than simply snooping. If your relationship is already in trouble, don’t throw snooping into the mix because that will just add even more trust issues into your relationship. Not to mention, if you don’t trust your boyfriend enough to resist the temptation to snoop in the first place, you have bigger issues at hand.