What’s really crazy is when you’re so sure he is the right guy. You can see a total future together. Sure, there are some things you’d like to change (slowly, of course) but he seems so open to suggestion, you feel like you couldn’t go wrong.
Take “the dreamer,” for instance. He’s got an average job that he’s too good for, but he says it’s better this way so he can concentrate on his band, his art, his window herb garden or even his cat. You can’t pin a soul like that down by “the man,” man! And why would you want to? Every time this guy needs money, he just calls his mom. A total keeper, right? A date with carrots and apples is totally romantic! (He prefers if you’d call it a vegan picnic.)
Well, then there’s Mr. Business. Total success, drives a hot car, and only wears suits that start at $500. He’s “focused,” you say. Ambitious. Keeps his nose to the grind stone. He may also trade you to the investors if it means better leverage! So what if you never see him; he’s doing what he does best. In the end, he’ll be able to provide for the family. You’ll just feel like a single mother if you guys ever decide to have kids. And all that ambition might get him in trouble with the attractive secretary, since they’re constantly side by side.
Well, we can’t forget the rough and tough bad boy. You can’t change him, but who wants to anyway? He’s so sexy with his tattoos, his leather jacket, and his cigarette. Too bad that diet of hoagies and chips can only hold up for so many years. After a while his stomach will be busting through his jacket and you’ll have to bring an oxygen tank around to accommodate for his emphysema.
Personally, I like the lumberjack. Strong, dependable, likes to get things done. Except he only eats his mother’s meat loaf and he wasn’t that cute at your cousin’s wedding. You remember that beautiful black tie wedding? So what if he figured he could wear his plaid shirt and blue jeans and just throw a tie over the ensemble. Oh, and his feet smell something awful every night.
Thankfully men don’t always fit so neatly into these categories. Everybody has their ups and their downs, and we’re not perfect either! You can’t even pretend to choose “wisely” anymore, you just have to jump in and get ready to communicate. And sometimes withhold food.
